நேற்றைய செய்தித்தாள்

 

மடிக்கப்பட்டது. மறக்கப்பட்டது. தூக்கி எறியப்பட்டது.

என் கதைகள், கவனிக்கத் தேவையில்லை எனத் தீர்மானிக்கப்பட்டன.
ஆனால் ஒரு செய்தித்தாள் என்றால் என்ன,
மன்னிக்க முடியாத முக்கிய தருணங்களின் பதிவு அல்லவா?

நீ நினைவில் வைக்க முடியாத சோகங்கள்,
அழுகையையும் பரிமாற்றத்தையும் நான் என் மடிப்புகளில் பதித்திருக்கிறேன்.
ஆனால் அந்த உணர்வுகளின் எடையை நீ சுமக்க முடியவில்லை.
அதனால், என்னை... தூக்கி எறிந்தாய்.

ஒரு காலத்தில்,
தீபாவளி அன்று வாசலிலிருந்து,
அப்பா வீட்டுக்குத் திரும்புவாரா என காத்திருந்தேன்.
அந்தக் குழந்தை,
உருகும் பாசத்தையும்,
மீளும் கவனத்தையும் நம்பியிருந்தது.
வானில் பட்டாசுகள் மட்டும் அல்ல— உள்ளத்தில் ஒளி வேண்டியது.

இன்று, அந்தக் குழந்தை
நினைவில் மட்டுமே வாழ்கிறான்.
ஏனெனில்,
ஒரு காலத்தில் அந்தக் குழந்தைக்கு உலகமாய் இருந்தவர்,
இப்போது "சாப்பிட்டாயா?" என்று கூட கேட்கமாட்டார்.
நான் உயிரோடு இருக்கிறேனா என்று கூட கவலைப்படமாட்டார்.

காதல்,
ஒரு காலத்தில் பக்கங்களிலேயே நிலைத்ததாக உணரப்பட்டது.
தோள்களுக்குள் நிழலாய்,
மெல்லிய சத்தியங்களை சுமந்து நடந்தது.
ஆனால் அவை மங்கின.
அவள் திருமணம் செய்துகொண்டாள்.
நான் கதையிலிருந்து அழிக்கப்பட்டேன்.

என் சகோதரன்,
ஒரு காலத்தில் என் நம்பிக்கையாய் இருந்தவர்,
இப்போது பேசாமல் மௌனமாகி விட்டார்.
தனது வாழ்க்கையை தனக்கென அமைத்து,
திருமணமும், பெருந்தொகை சம்பளங்களும் கொண்ட கழிவுகளுக்குள் வீழ்ந்தார்.
நான் பின்னணித் சத்தமாய் மாறிவிட்டேன்.
தூண்கள் எப்போதும் இடிக்கப்படவில்லை.
சில நேரங்களில்,
அவை எதையும் சுமக்க மறுக்கின்றன.

நான் அறியாமையால் அல்ல,
நேர்மை காரணமாக வலியடைந்தவன்.
நான் பலவீனமல்ல,
நான் காதலால் உயிர்த்தவன்.
ஆனால் காலம்,
மனிதர்களை மென்மையாக்குவதில்லை.
சில நேரங்களில், அது அவர்களை உறையும் கல்லாக்கிறது.

நான் முன்பு உண்மையை
இயல்பாகப் பேசியவன்.
இப்போது, ஒவ்வொரு வார்த்தையும் அளந்து,
அதன் தாக்கத்திற்கு பயந்து பேசுகிறேன்.
ஒரு காலத்தில் உலகை அகம்திறந்த கண்களால் கண்டேன்.
இப்போது,
நான் நம்மைத் தவிர்க்க விரும்புகிறேன்.
அதற்குப் பின்னால் விருப்பமில்லை,
பயமே காரணம்.

விளையாட்டு, சாகசம், நாடுகளின் தேடல்...
ஏற்கனவே என் உயிர் பாதைகள்—all shadowed now.
நிழல்களாகவே வழிகின்றன.

போரில் எல்லோருக்கும் பக்கமாக நின்ற
பாதுகாவலன் என்கின்ற என்னுள் ஒருவர்,
இப்போது... போர் நானாகவே.

இப்போதுள்ள நான்
மௌனத்தில் மூழ்கிய ஒருவர்.
நான் கேட்கப்பட்டவனாக இருந்தேன்,
இப்போது என் வலிக்கே யாரும் செவியாயில்லை.

முன்பு,
college-இல் mic-ஐ விட மறந்ததில்லை,
உணர்வுகளை பதைக்க விட்டதில்லை.
இப்போது,
வாழ்க்கையின் முழு காலத்தையும்
பேசப்படாத வார்த்தைகளில் சிதறவிடுகிறேன்.
உலகம் பேசும் முன்,
நான் மௌனமாய்த் திரும்புகிறேன்.

உலகத்தை கைப்பற்ற ஆசைப்பட했던 அந்த இளம் வீரன்,
இப்போது வேலைக்கு punch செய்து, punch out செய்கிறான்.
உலகம் சவாலாகத்தான் இருக்கிறது,
அதை அனுபவிக்கச் செல்வதற்கே நேரமில்லை.

நீ என்னுடன் நடந்ததைக் கேட்கவே இல்லை.
நீ தெரிந்துகொள்ள விரும்பவில்லை.
ஏனெனில்...
நீ என்னை தூக்கி எறிந்தாய்.

ஆனால்,
நான் முக்கியமில்லாதவன் அல்ல.
நான் ஒரு சாய்வு.
நான் ஒரு சாட்சி—
ஏதாவது ஒரு காலத்தில்
நீ யாரோவென நினைத்தாய்.

ஒருநாள்,
உன் மார்பில் இடிந்து விழும் ஒரு வலியில்
நீ உணர்வாய்—
சில தலைப்புகள் மறைவதில்லை.
அவை ஒலிக்கின்றன.
அவை... நேற்றைய செய்தித்தாளில் கூட.

Yesterday’s Newspaper

 

Folded, forgotten, and discarded. My stories, no longer deemed worthy of attention. Yet what is a newspaper if not a record of moments that mattered? I’ve captured innocence, heartbreak, and transformation in my creases, but you couldn’t carry the weight of those emotions, so you threw me away.

There was a time I stood at the gate on Diwali, waiting for my father to come home. That child believed in warmth, in return, in fireworks that lit up more than just the sky. Today, that same child exists only in memory, because the man who once meant the world to that child doesn’t bother to ask if I’ve eaten, or care if I’m even alive.

Love once felt eternal, pressed between palms, carried on streetlight walks and soft promises. But those promises faded. She got married. I was edited out.

My sibling, my anchor, turned silent. He found his own orbit, balancing marriage and paychecks so heavy at corporates that I became background noise. Pillars don’t always crumble. Sometimes, they just stop holding anything up.

I wasn’t naïve. I was innocent. I wasn’t weak. I was romantic. But time doesn’t always soften people. Sometimes, it hardens them. I began to speak brutally, not out of cruelty, but because I had no room left for lies. I watched my smiles fade, my warmth freeze, my heart calcify from touchless seasons.

I used to tell the truth like it was second nature. Now, I measure every word, scared of the ricochet. I once dreamed of the world with eyes wide open. Now, I just want out. I don’t seek destiny anymore, I avoid it. Not out of will, just because it's scary. Sports, adventure, exploration... all former lifelines, now distant shadows.

Even the protector in me, the one who stood besides everyone in battle, feels like the war itself. The listener I used to be to lean on is done, tired of my aches, drowning in his own, because none held a ear to hear me.

And me? The college kid who never missed a mic, never held back a feeling, now spills entire lifetimes into words that remain unspoken. I silence myself before the world can.

That young champ who once wanted to conquer the world, now just punches in and out. That traveller who wanted to scale every inch of the globe, now finds hard to time it between unpaid holidays. Stuck.

You didn’t ask what happened.
You didn’t want to know.
Because you chose to trash me.

But I am not irrelevant. I am residue. Proof that something once mattered.

And if the world ever grows quiet enough for you to notice the ache in your own chest, maybe you’ll remember, some headlines don’t disappear. They echo. Even if they’re written in yesterday’s newspaper.

Aap Jaisa Koi !!

Watching this romcom of Madhavan and Fatima, I felt a quiet friction - between romance and gender role, between emotional language and social expectation. Especially for men, the terrain of adaptation feels steep and unforgiving.

Across generations, men have inherited a role forged in duty and restraint. Strength was their language. Vulnerability, a dissonant chord. But with evolving societal norms, especially the rise of feminist consciousness, the expectations around masculinity are shifting fast, sometimes too fast to be humane.

While feminism has earned space to evolve - rightfully, and often loudly, masculinity is expected to transform instantly. Men are asked to unlearn centuries of silence, rewire expressions, and soften edges without first being offered a vocabulary, let alone grace.

When Fatima says her ex was a MCP - Male Chauvinist Pig so conveniently and casually, I wonder, would it be received with the same non chalance had her ex called her a PFB - Pseudo Feministic Bitch ??

Labels sting differently when the power to use them isn’t mutual. This asymmetry cuts deeper than discomfort. It cuts into identity.

Women today navigate multiple roles—professional, personal, emotional—with increasing societal permission. They’re allowed nuance. Men, meanwhile, are often stuck between the outdated model of dominance and the modern demand for emotional fluency. There’s no handbook. Just judgment.

In relationships, this tension manifests starkly.
Many modern partnerships preach equality but practice conditional freedom: where a woman may choose whether to work, but a man is expected to earn more than the woman, without complaint. Emotional depth is encouraged, but only if it doesn't distract from financial reliability.

The world might collapse if a man were to ask for the "choice to work."
Obviously! because kamaana toh mard ka kaam hai!
There's even a saying in Tamil: "Udyogam purusha lakshanam" - Employment is the mark of a man.

So men are born with, grow up with, and live under the expectation that they must work, and only then will they be deemed “men.”

I once met a potential partner who mentioned that her ideal partner should earn at least five digits per month. Yet, she had been at home for ten years post-college, still figuring out her own career. Had I called out the hypocrisy, I would’ve been branded a chauvinist. I was expected to accept it gracefully and provide for both of us, without a fuss.

But we choose not to call it hypocrisy. It’s a culture mid-transition. And transitions are messy. The divorce rates don't help the cause either.

Popular media only muddies the water.
Soap operas simplify emotion into spectacle. Male characters are either brutes or broken. Female characters oscillate between victimhood and vengeance. Rarely do we see stories where both navigate complexity with dignity.

What we need is a world where men and women are both allowed to feel, falter, and grow. Let go of rigid expectations—providers and nurturers can be any gender. We need stories that reflect nuanced masculinity, not just punished patriarchy. Don’t demand immediate transformation. Invite it with empathy.

Men aren't afraid of feeling.
They're afraid of being punished for feeling.
Ashamed for wanting to build together.

Let’s build spaces - be it a classroom, a café, or a culture—that invite everyone to unlearn with dignity. The wall doesn’t need demolition - it needs windows. Let it be carved, not cracked. Painted, not judged. Maybe then, we’ll outgrow the need for labels like MCP or PFB. Maybe then, we’ll stop defining each other by how loudly we resist or conform and start listening to the quiet truths we all carry.

The Constant !!

I’m not perfect. Never tried to be. I don't put on a mask.

I’ve lived, I’ve learned, I’ve unlearned.
I’ve built things - careers, resilience, inner calm
But I’m still building me.
Not for applause. Not for performance.

Just to keep becoming someone I can quietly be proud of.

I’ve been the provider, the planner, the pillar.
But I’d like to be the partner now, not just the protector.
I want ease.

I want a partner who meets me in the quiet and the chaos
Who values connection over convention.
Movies we don’t finish because the conversation’s better.
Maybe a couple of beers, maybe herbal tea - doesn’t matter.
Just the comfort of us.

Let me have mine. Let her have hers. 
And when our days meet , we meet softly, with laughter, with lightness.
No deadline for children.
No debt wrapped in someone else’s expectations.
because she wants to talk to me, not because she has to.

I want to be seen.
Loved not because I check a list, but because I bring peace to her soul the way she does to mine.
Just real. 

I carry responsibility well, though I won’t pretend it’s always light.
I don’t need a ceremony that dazzles or a relationship that performs.
Late-night banter under a blanket.
Let her have her space, her pace, her purpose.
No pressure for perfection.
Just a text that says “miss you” or “what’s for dinner?”

I don't want to be somebody's trophy husband, nor someone’s sole support beam.
I'll be the poet she wants, I want her to be the soul of the poem
Not flawless. Just free.

That's the Constant I seek.

GBU - The World

 Courtesy Mr. AK and AR and a poem

The Good : 

You're always born new, naive to the world, brought up by probably parents with virtues to follow rules, adhere to them, obey by law, respect everyone,  to be sweet and good to everyone around us.

You are 10 years now. You realise that there is a section where you're asked to tick a checkbox in a sheet at in a new school (parents were checking it for us till then, if not more). You wonder what that means ! No clue. You ask your parents and they say its nothing but a formality. They keep you naive. 

There is a teacher/ bully in school who doesn't treat you equally because you're new/ dominance/ whatever.

You go to college and then you try to be the best at everything possible. But someone doesn't like it. Not sure why. But someone always doesn't. 

You stay true to yourself and your upbringing and somehow struggle through all this to workspace. Someone feels threatened. Someone feels jealous. Now where is the good in this you wonder !!

So you go to ..

The Bad :

You're not a new born now. You've seen the reality of this world. You've learnt. You pick up on things.

You teach your kid at school to be cautious. Not to take even a biscuit from anyone, You teach them the meaning of good touch and bad touch. You give them a cellphone and not a smartphone to reach you. You ask them to report the incident even if its a teacher trying to discipline you. 

You're in college now. You know your departments and whom not to mess with, There are still bullies and seniors trying to shadow your talent. But now that you know that it's persistent, you try to stand up. But they have been doing this for a living. So you succumb. You're still hopeful.

You go to work. There are managers who know what you're capable of and try to dominate you through micromanagement and deadlines because they are insecure. You have liabilities and a family to look after. So you succumb and play the slave. It's not fun but it pays. 

Then comes authority through associations, trusts, invisisible creatures who want to suck on your hard earned money after GST of course. Now you feel like enough is enough .. let's turn the tables around and get to ..

The Ugly :

You're a new born again. Not in another life ,, but in your beliefs. You know the ins and outs of everything around.

Time to Unlearn the World and rediscover it through your new redefined lenses.

You know enough that schools are nothing but an institution to condition children to follow the good. Virtues don't mean their essence in words. Rules are there to control the masses and let the few shrewd/ rich ones inside. 

You know that laws are indeed not made by the government, You know to play the fool when required and play the goon when your close ones are in dire need. You know that love indeed has lost all meaning and you try to be cautious of who might fool you. Transactions only basis, You have become a pessimist. Actually the world has caused it. 

Bullies at school and college - now no longer exist because they know you can hack into their personal lives and mess with them in ways they wondered possible.

Workplace - Jessica Pearson at work. While everyone is busy playing snakes and ladders, you're playing chess. Two moves ahead at every step. 

World would call you names like XYZ, cold, devoid of emotions, outcast etc. Would try every trick like norms, rules, laws, authority, etc to condition you.

But be the maverick, be unprecedented, unheard of, unpredictable, be good to the good, be bad to the bad and ugly to the ones who deserve it. 

Be unapolegitically YOU.

Adios Amigos till next !!